Mihaela Claudia P

You might be wondering what I mean by “three types of good people.” People are either good or they’re not, right? There’s no such thing as different types of good people. However, my experience working with various individuals has led me to conclude that goodness can indeed have different shades. Recognizing these shades can help us potentially avoid ending relationships. You might also question what relationships have to do with a person being good. Well, I believe you’ll find the answer as you read on. To keep things simple, I’ve categorized goodness into three types, although a deeper exploration could reveal more.

Type 1: The most frequent and perhaps the most dangerous. These individuals help you as much as they can in normal circumstances, and their constant generosity makes you feel indebted and highly appreciative. However, when faced with an emergency, they switch to survival mode, forgetting others and focusing solely on their own safety. For example, during a natural disaster, they wouldn’t look back but focus only on escaping. A less extreme example could be sharing a house and having landlord issues; they’d pack up and leave without a second thought about your involvement. They are instinctive, reacting swiftly without reflection when pressured.

Type 2: Less frequent than the first, these individuals may seem somewhat selfish but aren’t dangerous. They are more transparent, letting you know what to expect. They aren’t as generous as Type 1 in everyday situations and offer help mostly depending on their mood or if asked. However, in emergencies, they are the ones who gather their wits and work on solutions to help everyone involved. They thrive in crisis, stepping up as heroes, ready to make a significant impact.

Type 3: This type is rare. These are the people who are consistently good, both in normal circumstances and in emergencies. They prioritize others’ needs over their own and are often referred to as ‘light workers.’ Their life’s purpose is to help as much as possible, expecting nothing in return and not using their deeds to manipulate. Their genuine generosity earns them love and respect, although some may take advantage of their kindness, they continue to assist unconditionally.

Understanding these types of good people can explain why some relationships might fail. While Type 3 can mesh well with Types 1 and 2, Types 1 and 2 might struggle, leading to conflict and possibly the end of a relationship, especially as interactions deepen beyond casual acquaintances. Recognizing which type of good person those around you are can significantly influence your relationships. Here, I’m not just referring to romantic relationships; I’m including all types of relationships—friendships, academic connections, professional interactions, and so on. Each type of relationship can be impacted by understanding the different types of good people involved. For instance, if you notice that your friend is a Type 1 and you are a Type 2, it might be best to avoid living together and keep the relationship casual.

Identifying the type of good people others are might not always be straightforward and might only become clear when it’s too late. However, if this realization is inevitable, it might be better to reach it sooner rather than later, allowing you to address the situation before more is invested. Relationships with others are complex, influenced by many factors, and challenging to manage. The more we know, the better we can prevent our own and others’ suffering. I plan to explore other factors in future posts, as I believe that, next to health, our relationships are crucial for our emotional, physical, energetic, and mental well-being.

Thanks for reading through to the end of my second post.